Posted By Administrator on October 9, 2009
Most people find it hard to believe this, but yes – there are times when the Bible actually gives Christians permission to seek divorce. A lot of people also find it hard to believe that I am a lawyer and a Christian at the same time. I remember visiting a church in the area and the pastor asked me what I did for a living. I told him I was a lawyer. His response shocked me at the time. “Really?”, he said. I couldn’t believe he was so shocked by the fact that I was a Christian after he found out I was an attorney. I can’t help but wonder what he would have thought had I told him I was a believer before I told him I was an attorney.
The point of this post is to document what the Bible says on divorce and to distinguish between being a lawyer and being a litigant. This post delves deep into the scriptures and seeks Biblical answers free of personal prejudices for or against divorce. If you are not a Christian and are reading this article, fear not. I will represent you with the same diligence and passion with which I represent every other client I have. As one will discover by reading this article, I have no problems doing what I do, which includes unashamedly providing legal representation to persons seeking a divorce. If you are a Christian and are reading this article, fear not. It is my goal by the grace of God to practice law in line with Biblical principles and solely for the glory of God. It is unfortunate that many in the church view divorce as an absolute evil. I remember going to church with my parents shortly before starting law school. One of the older ladies in the church came up to me after the service and asked what I was going to be doing now that I had graduated college. I told her I was going to law school. “Don’t you be doing any of them divorces” she told me with an old bony finger in my face. I soon came to realize that principles of Christianity and the responsibilities of a lawyer were difficult to reconcile, but not impossible. Ultimately, what we do is less important than for what, and even whom, we do it.
Distinguishing Lawyering and Litigating
In the third chapter of the book of Colossians, Paul is giving the church at Collosae a laundry list of rules. These aren’t like the 10 commandments. These rules are very idealistic and noble in nature, applicable to everyone – not just Christians. These “rules” tell us to not be angry, wrathful, malicious, slanderous, obscene, liars, and so forth. They tell us to be compassionate, kind, humble, meek, patient, forgiving, loving, and thankful. Then Paul tells the Colossians, “whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” Col. 3:17 (ESV), emphasis added. The term “whatever” is translated from the Greek word hostis, which in the KJV is translated “whatsoever.” There certainly seems to be a connotation here that it doesn’t matter what you do, so long as you do it in the name of Christ.
Chapter 14 of the book of Romans also sheds some light on the subject where it says “whatever does not proceed from faith is sin.” Rom. 14:23 (ESV). I interpret this to mean that whatever acts or deeds (see above) that I do, must be done from faith. Failure to practice law or represent someone in a divorce case by faith alone is sin. I would do the reader a disservice if I did not discuss what I do in the context of the rest of Romans 14 regarding causing a brother to stumble.
One of the things I always try to do (and sometimes fail) is to ascertain the spiritual standing of my client. The purpose of doing so is not solely to proselytize them, so non-Christian you have no need to worry. (I respect the wishes and limits of my clients, so while I may bring up the subject, a client must only request that we not discuss the issue and it will not be brought up again). Many of my clients are Christians and are seeking to follow the scripture or are embarrassed about being in my office and being a Christian. As a believer, I would be doing my client a disservice if I did not point out what the scriptures say on divorce and assist them in any way I can.
Some would say that a lawyer has no business assisting clients in such a way. The rules of professional responsibility disagree. Rule 2.1 of the Arkansas Rules of Professional Conduct states that “In rendering advice, a lawyer may refer not only to law but to other considerations such as moral, economic, social and political factors, that may be relevant to the client’s situation.” Ark. R. Prof. C. R. 2.1 (2009). In order for me to counsel a client in areas that may be relevant to a client’s situation, I must determine whether Christian counsel is relevant to each particular client. Some would ask “what about the Muslim or Hindu?” I would be happy to represent a Muslim or Hindu. However, I am not competent to provide Muslim or Hindu spiritual guidance, although I have heard that many of the basic precepts of all of the world’s major religions are very similar.
I am convinced that it is perfectly acceptable to be a lawyer and a Christian. But I should advise any client of mine that is a Christian what the Bible says about divorce and litigation. I believe the Bible teaches Christians to avoid going to court against other Christians at all costs. “When one of you has a grievance against another, does he dare go to law before the unrighteous instead of the saints? Or do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world is to be judged by you, are you incompetent to try trivial cases? Do you not know that we are to judge angels? How much more, then, matters pertaining to this life! So if you have such cases, why do you lay them before those who have no standing in the church? I say this to your shame. Can it be that there is no one among you wise enough to settle a dispute between the brothers, but brother goes to law against brother, and that before unbelievers? To have lawsuits at all with one another is already a defeat for you. Why not rather suffer wrong? Why not rather be defrauded? ” 1 Cor. 6:1-7 (ESV).
As believers, we should never resort to a secular court against another believer. Why not?
- Believers will one day judge the world. (See Matt. 18:15-20, esp. v. 18)
- Believers will one day judge the angels.
- If Believers will one day judge angles and the world in matters of eternal consequence, can’t we resolve our own disputes?
As believers, we should seek Jesus in everything, including personal conflict. Wasn’t it Jesus who commanded us to “turn the other cheek”? As believers, shouldn’t we “forgive as you have been forgiven”? This begs the question “do you have Christian clients suing other Christians?” The answer is, “I don’t know.” As a lawyer, I do not have the opportunity to guage an opponent’s spiritual well being. I can only guage my client’s spiritual state.
Clients have told me that they believe the individual they are suing is a believer. We talk about it, and if my client is comfortable continuing, we continue. In each situation thus far, there has never been a situation in which I was convinced the other party was indeed a believer. In fact, based on responses to my attempts at resolving the situation without going to Court, and based on the Biblical principal of “you’ll know they are Christians by their love,” I would say I’ve been fairly convinced that they may talk the talk but do not walk the walk.
Either way, a lawyer has two jobs. The first job of an attorney is that of an advisor. I always give advice to clients to stay out of court if at all possible. There are several reasons for this. First, if everyone involved are Christians, the Bible commands it. Second, going to Court costs more money in attorney fees and court costs. Third, coming to one’s own resolution to a problem is always better than going to a judge to be told what to do. I’ve heard it said that if all parties do not walk away from court equally dissatisfied with the outcome, the judge has not done a good job on that case. Of course I also advise my clients on the law and how it affects their personal situation.
The second job of an attorney is that of an advocate. An advocate’s job is to know the rules of civil procedure and evidence so that a case properly proceeds in a fair manner and facts are presented to the judge or jury in a fair manner. By doing so, the attorney presents his or her case. There are attorneys out there that would bend the facts and present the twisted facts to a fact-finder on a technicality in the rules of procedure or evidence. Not me. First and foremost, it’s wrong Biblically. Secondly, it’s unethical for an attorney to mislead a judge or jury.
Neither the advisor nor the advocate ever commits an act that results in litigation (that is unless malpractice is committed). The lawyer is more like a pilot who navigates the client through the confusing and often dangerous maze of rules and laws called litigation.
Christians and Divorce
Jesus said “…everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” Matt. 5:32 (ESV). This verse stands for two propositions, one easy to digest and the other much more difficult to digest. First, anyone who divorces their spouse makes their spouse commit adultery except on the grounds of adultery. This gives Christians per se permission to get a divorce if their spouse has been unfaithful. The verse makes sense. Why would divorcing a spouse that has committed adultery make that spouse any more of an adulterer? They made themselves an adulterer, not the Christian spouse that divorces them.
The second part is more difficult – whoever marries a divorced person commits adultery. This seems to stand for the proposition that even permissible divorce, which breaks the legal bonds of matrimony, does not break the spiritual bonds of matrimony. I can hear the divorced people who are now re-married very upset at this. First, this isn’t my opinion – I’m just quoting scripture. Second, I don’t think this means that anyone who has been divorced and then re-married to another individual should get another divorce. Regardless, the Bible appears to prohibit remarriage.
Continuing in that same line of thought, we see that Jesus reaffirms this in Matthew 19 when he quoted the book of Genesis to the Pharisees saying “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” When Jesus speaks, he does so with authority. I interpret His statement “let not man separate” to be akin to God’s statement “let there be light” – a creative and permanent decree of God. I do not take it to be a command, and even if it is, neither lawyers nor judges separate married couples. Lawyers advise their clients and represent them in Court. Judges are referees making sure that the rules of evidence and civil procedure are followed, and that justice is served in a fair and equitable manner. In actuality, couples divorce themselves.
Therefore, we cannot hold an attorney accountable for representing a client in a divorce case. If every Christian attorney turned down every divorce case on the grounds of Biblical morality, every divorce would be handled by a secular attorney. While I respect the wishes and limits of my clients, as a Christian attorney I can use the opportunity to share the gospel in a unique way. If my client doesn’t want to hear it, they will not. If my client will listen, then the gospel can provide healing and love that someone facing divorce needs.
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